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In this interview, Isela, an 11th grader, opens up about her personal journey of faith and how her relationship with Jesus has transformed her life. From dealing with depression and anxiety to discovering the peace and strength that come through surrendering to Christ, Isela shares her story of struggle, redemption, and growth. As a young person navigating the challenges of high school and life, Isela’s journey is a powerful reminder of the impact faith can have at any age. Her reflections highlight the importance of worship, prayer, and trusting God through both the highs and lows of life. @ykyourself What was life like before your journey with Jesus? Honestly, life was chaotic in every way. Battling depression and anxiety attacks, every day felt like a burden. I couldn't find the motivation to get ready for school, connect with others, or even take care of myself. I had been struggling with depressive episodes and anxiety attacks since quarantine, and I turned to substance abuse instead of the Lord. Self-esteem issues also resurfaced. Despite all the makeup and provocative clothing I used to cover it up, I always felt unwanted and disgusted with myself. I found temporary comfort in the fact that boys started to like me when I acted out of lust, and people seemed to talk to me more when I was at my worst, hiding behind those things. What was the moment that made you fully surrender to God, and how did it change your perspective? I’d say it was around April of my sophomore year in high school. I started attending Pluggedin Youth again in March of 2024, and it really snapped me back to reality. I began seeing myself the way God saw me, rather than how the world saw me. That’s when I finally gave my life to Christ, asking Him to take away my depression and anxiety. Since that day, I’ve felt a huge shift within me, and I’ve never felt better. My best friend, Crystal, actually invited me to do a church reading for her parish, and that’s when I knew that Jesus truly called me, not just for something small. From that point, I felt the Holy Spirit constantly convicting me about my actions, words, the way I dress, the media I consumed, the habits I had, and the people I surrounded myself with. God called me to move away from all of that. I went about it quite harshly, and looking back, I realize I could have handled things differently with a few people. However, everything happens for a reason. If it weren’t for my suffering, Christ may not have been able to work in me the way He did. Through the pain, I’m where I am now with the Lord, and I feel like I could sit down with those same people and share the love Jesus has for them. How do you stay spiritually strong during both the highs and lows of life? This ties into the question above, but worship and prayer are essential for me. I stopped being so prideful and started asking for prayer from my youth pastors, Jeff and Keyla, or from the ministry as a whole. This has helped me tremendously, and I encourage every follower of Christ to do the same! When I started truly worshiping Jesus, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. I couldn’t help but fall to the ground in worship and tears. From those heavy nights and altar calls at my youth group, I learned that the only way to get through both the good and bad times is with God. By surrendering fully to Him in my despair and worshiping the Almighty, I accepted that God is my only strength, and I can do nothing without Him. “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and He helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise Him.” - Psalms 28:7 NIV What role does faith play in your daily decisions and the way you interact with others? Jesus is the center of everything for me now. I turn to Him for everything, from making plans, responding to others, to even preparing food. I always want to make sure He is in full control. When I’m stressed, I turn my focus away from everything else and focus solely on His Word because I am who He says I am, and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. However, I still struggle with being led by the Spirit in certain areas, especially in loving people I don’t really want to love. It’s been hard for me to act on this, but Jesus gave me the strength to do so. In John 15, Jesus calls us His friends, but He also commands us to love others as He has loved us. Nowadays, with the “get your get back” mindset and the romanticization of being petty, it’s easy to match people’s energy. But God calls us to be apart from that. We are to “bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us.” With verses like Philippians 4:13 and Luke 6:28 constantly running through my mind, I find myself taking a breath, being still, and talking to God, understanding that He is God, and He’ll get me through this. If you could share one message about Jesus with this generation, what would it be? Jesus loves you so much; He just wants to talk to you. He’s not asking you to give up everything and then come to Him. Jesus knew exactly what He was getting into when He chose to die for you. He knew how many times you’d reject or deny Him, yet He still chose you. Jesus has been trying to speak to you for so long, whether you see it or not. In Jesus alone is where you’ll find the love you’ve been searching for. All the drugs, alcohol, girls or boys, whatever you’re using to fill the emptiness inside, Jesus is the only one who can fulfill that need. God is just trying to get you to open your heart to Him. He’s not condemning you; He wants to set you free, and only the truth can do that. The truth, the way, and the life are found in Jesus Christ. So, if you’re looking for healing or rest, He is the only one who can give it to you. Don’t worry about overcoming your addiction, don’t stress about reading your Bible every day, and stop thinking you need to do all these things to come to God. All you have to do is believe and surrender to Him. It’s not some extraordinary thing to surrender to God. Sometimes, all it takes is a simple conversation or even tears. Acknowledging His might is one thing, but accepting that His power is the source for everything in your life, that’s what it means to surrender to God. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me, you can do nothing.” - John 15:5 NIV Isela’s story serves as a testament to the transformative power of faith, showing that no matter how challenging life may seem, God’s love and strength are always available. Through her journey of overcoming struggles with mental health, finding strength in worship and prayer, and learning to trust God, Isela is an inspiring example for her generation. Her words remind us that we don’t have to have everything figured out to come to Jesus, He meets us where we are and offers us the love and peace we long for. As Isela continues her walk with Christ, her story encourages others to open their hearts to God and experience the life-changing impact of His grace. If you're looking for somewhere to hear more about who Jesus is, get in that word. But if you have no clue where to start, feel free to be another brother or sister at Pluggedin Youth. You're more than just another person in a room, you're our family in Christ. We want you to be connected with people who just want to love you like Jesus wants you to be loved and help you through your lows. Every Thursday at 7:30 65 N Clinton Ave @pluggedinyth on Instagram If you want prayer or have any questions, anyone is more than welcome to reach out to me as well :) @is3Ixa on Instagram

Today, we had the amazing oportunity to interview with Ale, a 12th grader who has experienced anxiety from a young age. In this interview, Ale shares her personal journey with anxiety, from the early signs she noticed as a child to how it has evolved as she’s grown older. We’ll also hear about the coping strategies that have worked for her and the valuable advice she has for anyone who is struggling with anxiety. Her story sheds light on the complexities of living with anxiety and the importance of understanding, support, and patience. Let's dive in and learn more from Ale's experiences. When did you first notice you anxiety, an how did it affect you as a child? As a child, the first time I noticed my anxiety was when my father dropped me off on my second day of second grade. I was so unbelievably anxious about being alone (meaning without my parents) at school that I shouted and cried for my dad to not leave me. My father has always been there for me, but I was so worked up and utterly terrified of being alone that I could not think logically about what was happening. The reality was that school would be over soon and I would get to see my family again in a few hours, but anxiety often does not let you grasp that. Even if you can think about the situation critically, you still end up second guessing yourself. Ale and her abuela As a child my anxieties came in the form of different things: I was horrified of being without my parents when I was little; I hated being left alone at friends’ houses; I had irrational fears of paranormal things that kept me up at night; I was scared of getting sick; I had difficulties eating. Keep in mind this was over the course of several years, since I was about eight or so. Anxiety became a normal part of my day to day life, the discomfort, the unease, the stress all became second nature to me. How has your anxiety changed as you've grown older? Like I had mentioned, my anxiety came in waves most of the time. I would hyper-fixate over certain worries that eventually took over my daily life. When I had separation anxiety from my parents, I hated being dropped off at my friends’ houses even though I wanted to hang out with them. I only felt comfortable if my parents were there with me. When I was horrified of getting sick I would overthink every minor symptom for fear that I had somehow gotten terminally ill. My anxieties towards food are some of my most recent worries, though I am doing much better now. When it was worse, I feared that if I ate too much I would feel sick and throw up. This made it difficult to eat in general, but especially in public. The pandemic only made the issue worse, as going out became one of my anxieties for a period of time. Doctors usually asked if I had an eating disorder, but I never had issues with my self image, I was just scared of eating for some reason.  What do you wish more people knew and understood about anxiety? I wish more people understood that anxiety can adapt and mold to your current fears. Something you are worried about now can become intertwined with your anxiety and affect you. I wish people understood that anxiety is not just being scared in the way people are scared of bugs or horror movies; it is a fear that constantly sits in the back of your mind even though what causes you anxiety is not physically there. If you have friends with anxiety, be patient with them. I can assure you they likely feel bad about being so anxious all the time and it is certainly something difficult to overcome, especially if it is coupled with panic attacks and other symptoms. Anxiety is very elusive, so even though it may not make sense to you, keep in mind that it feels very real and can be very debilitating for those who experience it. What coping strategies have helped you the most? I think the biggest coping strategy that helps with my anxiety is stepping back when needed. It can feel embarrassing when you cannot participate in things because of anxiety, but pushing past your boundaries can do more harm than good. The biggest help for me was understanding that anxiety is not the end all be all; you don’t have to overcome all your worries at once. Stepping back and letting yourself feel better before moving forward will forever be more beneficial than throwing yourself into it all at once. Additionally, talking to people I trust was super helpful with managing my anxiety. Letting those closest to me understand how I feel and explaining what they can do to help me in moments where my anxiety is too much to handle was life changing. In the past I felt like sharing my struggles and being vulnerable with others was not something I could do because anxiety, to me at the time, was a hush-hush topic. Now, I feel comfortable telling those I trust about the more private aspects of my anxiety, because it not only helps me feel more comfortable, but it can help them understand why anxiety can be tricky to navigate. What advice would you give to someone struggling with anxiety? My biggest advice for those with anxiety is give yourself some leeway. Convincing yourself that “you should be over this by now” and “it is not that big of a deal” can make it worse. Ignoring how you feel about a certain situation exacerbates the issue. Even if others might not think it’s a “big deal” it is to you, and frankly that is all that matters. Your anxiety is affecting you, so do not let others tell you to push it aside when you know in your heart it is not that simple. Additionally, if possible, (since I understand it is inaccessible to some) speaking to professionals can greatly improve your understanding of your anxiety and give you specific solutions to what you might be experiencing. Ale and her boyfriend Raul I know a common coping mechanism with anxiety is using your five senses: five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. This helps in focusing on the present moment, instead of focusing on your anxious thoughts. Anxiety is certainly manageable with the right coping skills and support system! It may take some trial and error, but eventually you will have a plan that works best for you. To wrap things up, Ale’s story shows us that anxiety is something people deal with in different ways, and it can change over time. From her early childhood fears to how she handles it now, her experiences remind us that it’s important to be patient with ourselves and others. Her advice on taking a step back when needed and talking to trusted people is really helpful. She also encourages people to be kind to themselves and not feel bad about having anxiety. Overall, Ale’s journey is a reminder that, while anxiety can be tough, it’s something we can manage with the right support and coping strategies. @ykyourself Here are some helpful resources for people who may be struggling with anxiety and looking for support: Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741 (USA and UK)A free, 24/7 text message service to help with anxiety, depression, and mental health crises. Therapy and Counseling BetterHelp : Online counseling platform with licensed therapists. Talkspace : Another online platform offering therapy via text, video, and audio messages. Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) Website: https://adaa.orgProvides helpful articles, resources, and tools on managing anxiety and depression.

In this interview, Asia Renee, a 12th-grade student with lupus, talks about her experience living with the disease. She shares how she first found out she had lupus, the challenges she faced, and how it has affected her life. Asia also discusses some common misunderstandings about lupus and gives advice to others who are dealing with it. Her story is a powerful reminder that even though lupus can be tough, there is always support and ways to take care of yourself. Asia and her mom 1. How did you first learn you had Lupus? I first learned that I had lupus in December 2021. Initially, neither my mom nor the doctors knew what was wrong with me. It took two months of testing before they finally figured it out. Before my diagnosis, I experienced frequent illnesses, random headaches, stomach aches, the flu, and increased body pain, symptoms I dismissed as minor issues. 2. What challenges did you face adjusting to it? Facing my condition meant adapting to many challenges, including taking medication, which was a big change since I’d never taken pills before. I also had frequent hospital admissions, sometimes lasting two weeks, which made my freshman year of high school incredibly short and disruptive. This eventually led to home instruction due to my physical limitations. Being on a dance step team added to the struggle, as I had to practice via Google Meet and complete all my work online. I dealt with isolation, weight gain from the medicine, and later rapid weight loss when the medication was stopped, which only heightened my insecurities as a teenager. Additionally, lupus forced me to avoid the sun, so I always had to wear a hat, seek shade, and apply sunscreen. 3. What’s a common misconception about Lupus? Hamilton West's Dance and Step Team One thing I will say is that not many people know much about lupus. Although it’s a disease that often comes up in conversation, most people don’t really understand what it is or how many individuals live with it. In reality, lupus is more common than many realize. Another misconception is that since lupus is a “disease,” many people think it is transferable or contagious, which it is not. 4. How does it affect your daily life? Lupus affects my daily life. Even though I’m slowly getting better, I often feel lightheaded, dizzy, and experience headaches, foot pain, and shortness of breath, especially when navigating school stairs. At home, I must carefully manage my medications, ensuring I take them on time. Some days, I even miss events because I need to be admitted to the hospital or attend a treatment or checkup. 5. What’s your message to others with Lupus? My message to others who have lupus is: If you feel comfortable, speak up about it. Although lupus can present many challenges, it’s important to remember that there is support available, and you are not alone. Along with the medical treatments prescribed by your doctors, consider embracing lifestyle changes that promote well-being. Simple adjustments, such as maintaining a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water, and engaging in gentle exercise, can truly make a significant difference in managing your symptoms. By sharing your experiences, you not only help to break down the stigma surrounding lupus, but you also create opportunities for mutual support. Opening up about your condition can lead to advice, encouragement, and a sense of community that can help you navigate the ups and downs of living with lupus. Also, remember that managing lupus isn’t just about medication, it’s also about taking proactive steps toward a healthier lifestyle and finding balance in your daily life. Asia's story highlights the strength and determination it takes to live with lupus, especially as a teenager. Despite the challenges, she shows that with support, self-care, and the right mindset, it’s possible to manage the disease and stay positive. Her message encourages others with lupus to speak up, take care of themselves, and never feel alone in their journey. @ykyourself Here are some resources that could help people living with lupus, like Asia, or anyone seeking support or information about the disease: 1. Lupus Foundation of America (LFA) Website: www.lupus.org Offers support, education, and resources for people with lupus, including information on treatment, research, and local support groups. 2. National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases (NIAMS) Website: www.niams.nih.gov Provides detailed information about lupus, including symptoms, treatment options, and research updates. 3. Lupus Research Alliance Website: www.lupusresearch.org Focuses on funding research to improve treatment and ultimately find a cure for lupus. It also provides resources for patients and families. 4. The American College of Rheumatology (ACR) Website:   www.rheumatology.org A professional organization offering resources for people with autoimmune diseases like lupus, including finding a rheumatologist.

On September 4, 2024, during a highly anticipated game against rival Steinert High School, Dylan Garnica sustained a devastating injury in the opening soccer match of his senior season. This unexpected moment would alter his life, as he continues to experience the lingering soreness and pain from that day. Dylan, a junior at the time, opens up about the injury to his AC joint in his shoulder, recounting the moments leading up to the incident and the challenging recovery process that followed. He also reflects on how this injury impacted his mental health, affecting his confidence and his ability to play at the level he once did. I had the opportunity to interview Garnica, gaining valuable insight into his injury and the challenges he faced. We hope that this article, along with his experiences, serves as a reminder to other athletes going through similar struggles. You are not alone. Can you explain the injury and how you felt during those moments? I felt like I initially hit my head, so when I hit the ground, I grabbed my head. But then, when I tried to move my arm, it hurt. Instead of holding my head, I put my right arm on my left shoulder and immediately felt the bone out of place. I froze, not knowing what to do. I just remember the ref, my coach, and the trainer all surrounding me, asking what happened. I told them I thought my bone was out of place. The trainer looked and said, “Yeah, we need to get you to the hospital.” At that moment, I was just so scared and knew my senior season was over. What was your recovery like, and what types of things did you have to do? The first week or two of recovery was horrible. I couldn’t move my shoulder because of the pain, and it even hurt to walk, so I wasn’t doing much. I got injured the day before the first day of school, and I missed the first week and a half because I was supposed to get surgery. However, I didn’t end up having it because the recovery would’ve been longer, and it could have caused more complications in the future. Once I returned to play, I had to wear a brace, which had a huge impact on the way I played. It was so big and hot that I felt like I would overheat in it at times. How did senior night feel after everything you’d been through? Senior night was a bit of a rollercoaster. I had the support of my friends and family there to see me get back on the field. I was counting down the days, so I was excited. That day, I couldn’t wait to be on the field, but I played with so much fear of getting hurt again. After a few plays, I realized my confidence was at an all-time low. What’s the biggest lesson that injury taught you, and how did those personal struggles change you? Mateo and Dylan The lesson I learned is that everything happens for a reason, and maybe God was trying to make me stronger both mentally and physically. At that time, I was going through some personal struggles in addition to the injury, so staying positive was really important. I feel like the injury and the personal challenges helped me figure out the person I want to be and helped me mature in a way. I now have a new vision of who I want to become, and I’m currently working toward that. While I know I’m not perfect, I’m confident that one day I will reach the place I want to be. If you could redo one moment, what would it be? I’m not sure what exact moment I would redo, but I definitely would have liked to find a way to avoid the injury. If I can’t change the injury, I would have changed the way I prepared myself to come back. I thought I’d be able to return and play at my full ability, but when I couldn’t, I wasn’t mentally prepared for it, and that had a big impact on me. Do you have any last words? Honestly, the whole time period was tough for me, and to this day, I look back and wish things had gone differently. My shoulder still bothers me. When I work out or do anything involving force with my left shoulder, it gets sore easily, and on very cold days, I feel discomfort in it. I hope that the more I work out, the more it strengthens and doesn’t get as sore. One thing that won’t change is that I still have the bump on my shoulder, so if you look at my left shoulder, you can still see that it’s slightly lifted. In conclusion, Dylan Garnica’s journey has been anything but easy. His injury and recovery were full of struggles, pain, and moments of doubt. It wasn’t a smooth path with happy endings, but through it all, Dylan learned a lot about his strength and resilience. His experience reminds athletes that recovery isn’t always quick or easy, and it’s okay to feel frustrated. But no matter how tough it gets, you’re not alone in facing those challenges. Dylan’s story is proof that even in the hardest times, there’s always something to learn and hold onto. @ykyourself

Alopecia is a condition that can make those who experience it feel different or isolated. For Aaron, a 10th grade student, this journey was filled with confusion, bullying, and self-doubt. In this powerful reflection, Aaron opens up about his personal experience, from being diagnosed with alopecia, facing challenges with bullying, and struggling with his self-image to finding strength through his faith, family, and friends. His story is one of resilience and growth, showing how overcoming obstacles can lead to newfound confidence and self-acceptance. This is more than a story about hair loss; it’s about embracing who you are and learning to shine through difficult times. 1. How did you feel when you were first diagnosed with alopecia?   When I was first diagnosed with alopecia, I felt really confused and out of place. I hardly knew what it was, and learning more about it only upset me further. I went to multiple doctors and hospitals to see if there were any underlying causes, but it turned out I just had alopecia. That made things worse because I was hoping to find a potential cause and get rid of it sooner. Knowing it showed up randomly really hurt me.   2. What challenges did you face with bullying or feeling different?   In 7th grade, I didn’t have many friends and clung to the few people I spoke to because I didn’t have anyone or anywhere else to turn to. A lot of kids would look at my spots, snicker under their breath, giggle, or point. I felt so disgusted with my hair that I fell into a deep depression and didn’t tell anyone what I was going through. I let so many people define who I was, and because I seriously felt ugly, I became an ugly person mentally. I took out my frustration on others and acted out, but I now realize that’s what happens when you’re not in the right headspace.   When I transferred schools for my 8th and final year of middle school, my life changed. I met new people who helped me get through my condition, and I started learning how to adapt to it. I remember one day during gym, I was walking outside with friends, and a girl I thought was my friend grabbed my hat off my head and ran away with it. Some might laugh at the story, but I felt so disrespected and embarrassed. I thought I had escaped negativity, but I realized that no matter where I turned, each road had its own obstacles.   3. How did you cope during that time?   I coped by clinging closely to my religion. I prayed a lot to be “normal” again, and while this habit might sound unhealthy, it gave me something to look forward to—growing my hair naturally again. My friends at the time helped me dig myself out of that hole. My sister and mom were there every step of the way, reminding me I was enough and always beautiful in their eyes. I’ll always appreciate everyone who helped me through that chapter of my life.   I also learned that I wasn’t alone. There are people all over the world, in my country, in my city, and even in my neighborhood, who could be going through the same thing. At first, I hated hearing this because it made me feel like I wasn’t enough on my own, but eventually, I realized having a community of people who understood and supported me was comforting.   4. How has alopecia shaped who you are today?   Alopecia has shaped me in so many ways. Even though I didn’t have it for long, I learned and grew a lot. I was insecure my whole life, and losing my hair in patches— and eventually being bald for a time—completely broke me. But I had to stay strong and look for the silver lining.   I realized that no matter who you are or what you do, someone will always have something to say about you. If people see something unfamiliar, they’ll talk about it even more. By the time my hair grew back in 8th grade, I had gained so much confidence and self-esteem. People could say whatever they wanted, but I stopped paying attention to negativity. I went through too much during that time to let unnecessary comments affect me.   If I had to do it all over again, I 100% would. Since my diagnosis, I’ve become so much stronger, and I would never give up my growth and happiness for anyone or anything.   5. What’s your advice for someone going through the same thing?   First, I’ll say I got lucky that my hair came back. My dermatologist warned me there was a risk it wouldn’t grow back, but I never lost hope. During dark times, it’s easy to adopt a negative mindset and let it consume you. But staying optimistic and positive is how you shine light into the darkness.   Never forget that you’re not alone. There’s always someone going through the same thing, and your community will help strengthen you. No matter what you’re facing or what anyone says about you, you are always enough. Even if it’s your own parents commenting on you, never let anyone dim your light.   For this reason, I’ve decided to create a safe haven where other students can contact me to share their experiences with bullying—whether related to health disorders or in general.   You can contact me via Instagram: @aaron.i0 In conclusion, Aaron’s experience with alopecia shows how tough times can lead to growth and strength. Despite facing bullying and tough moments, he found support through his family, friends, and faith. His story is a reminder that no matter what challenges come your way, you can get through them and come out stronger. Aaron wants others to know that they are not alone and that they are always enough. Here are some helpful resources for alopecia support: National Alopecia Areata Foundation (NAAF)  - Offers info, support groups, and community connections. www.naaf.org Alopecia UK  - Provides support, advice, and peer networks. www.alopecia.org.uk Online Communities  - Join Facebook groups or Reddit for support and shared experiences. Mental Health Support  - If needed, seek counseling to manage emotional struggles. Dermatologists  - Consult for medical advice and treatments. Remember, you're not alone, and these resources can help guide you through the journey. @ykyourself

Rily Contreras is a sophomore in high school who has faced plenty of challenges, especially being doubted because of his height. Growing up in the Bronx, basketball became his way to escape the tough environment around him. He used the doubts from others as motivation to prove them wrong, especially after a big game in his freshman year where he scored 29 points. Even when he faced injuries, like breaking his nose, basketball taught him to keep pushing and not give up. In this interview, I gained insight into Rily's experiences growing up and facing challenges. Rily Contreras 1. How did being doubted because of your height or background affect you?   Being doubted because of my height affected me in many ways. At first, people would tell me I couldn’t be good because I wasn’t as tall as everybody else. That discouraged me, but I later learned to use it as motivation. I realized I could do anything I set my mind to.   2. How did basketball help you escape challenges?    Basketball was always my escape. I remember when I was old enough to go to the park by myself, all I wanted to do was play basketball. Growing up in the Bronx, being outside at a young age wasn’t always the safest thing to do, but basketball definitely helped keep my mind off the dangers of the city.   3. Did basketball give you moments to prove people wrong? Explain some moments.   My freshman year was when I proved everybody wrong. In our first scrimmage against Hopewell, leading up to the game, a lot of people told me that nothing I accomplished in middle school leagues would translate into high school. But I proved them wrong. I had a game-high 29 points, and we got the win. After that game, I knew I surprised a lot of people, and it showed me that I was right. I could do anything I put my mind to.   4. What did basketball teach you about resilience?    Basketball taught me a lot about toughness and how to keep pushing. Last year during AAU season, I broke my nose, which forced me to sit out for a few weeks. At first, I was nervous about coming back because I was scared of hurting it again, but I had to be tough. I pushed my fear aside because I knew I had to show up for my team, even though I was still scared.   5. What advice do you have for those underestimated?    My advice is to keep your head up and block out the outside noise. Rily Contreras' journey shows that with hard work and determination, you can overcome any obstacle, no matter what others think. From proving himself on the court to pushing through personal challenges, he’s learned that belief in yourself is key. His story is a reminder that no matter where you come from or how others doubt you, you can always prove them wrong and achieve your goals. @ykyourself

Mental health is a complex and deeply personal journey, especially during adolescence—a time marked by significant emotional and social changes. I interviewed Arielys Torres, one of my closest friends since kindergarten. In this interview, we explore her experiences, who navigated the challenges of mental health during her formative years. From early feelings of numbness and the struggle for validation to discovering supportive relationships and effective coping strategies, Arielys' story sheds light on the importance of understanding and addressing mental health issues. We hope this article helps anyone who may be going through the same struggles or is in a tough spot in their life. Remember, you are never alone. There is always help.  1. Can you share your early experiences with mental health, particularly during your adolescence, and how they shaped your view of yourself? At first, I realized that I was viewing life as something that just doesn’t end. It was painful for me to get up every day, go to school, talk to people, go home, go to bed, and repeat. I viewed life itself as a task rather than something to live. Living life like that drained me, and I no longer wanted to keep doing it. It became harder to get up, then harder to eat, and then harder to socialize. I constantly felt numb, with a heavy heart. 2. How did your relationships with family and peers influence your feelings of stress and your mental health during high school? Going into high school felt like my world and daily routine had completely changed. Once I sensed a change in my life, I felt like I was taking a breath of air after drowning for so long. But this made me crave happiness, so I sought the attention of boys and new friends. All I cared about was keeping those new people close, which made me lose sight of those who had my back since the beginning. I craved validation so much that none of that mattered to me at the time like it does now. While my parents were yelling at me to get good grades, I was trying to skip class and roam the halls as soon as someone called me out. I felt like I was everyone’s therapist, and I was so focused on everyone else’s mental health and happiness that I let mine fall into the shadows. No one cared enough to ask if I was okay, so I gaslighted myself into thinking I was fine. 3. What role do you think validation from others played in your emotional well-being, and how did it affect your behavior? The need for validation grew from not feeling like I ever got it at home. I knew I was never the "easy" or "smart" kid, so I looked for validation elsewhere. This led me to do things that I wish I hadn’t done. Even in those moments, I knew they were wrong, but the need to feel loved was worth it to me. My happiness and daily mood depended entirely on how those around me were doing. 4. You mentioned a turning point in your sophomore year. What changes occurred during that time that helped you recognize and address your mental health struggles? By mid-sophomore year, around April, I was back in therapy. Talking about how I felt to someone who had no idea of my past or looked to judge me helped me gain a clearer perspective on what was wrong and right. I learned through discussing my feelings and what was happening in my life at the time that the way I was living wasn’t right. It felt like I was living for other people. It took some time, but I made a change. I surrounded myself with different people and met really good friends who wanted me to be better for myself, not just for them. They recognized my pain and tried their best to help me rather than blame me or use me. Finding those supportive people made life feel less like a task and more like something to enjoy. Even after someone like that left my life, I still carry that feeling of self-worth and self-love, which proves my growth. 5. How has your understanding of depression evolved over the years, and what strategies have you found effective in managing it? I’ve learned several ways to cope with my mental health. First, I tried online therapy, but I discovered that I preferred speaking face-to-face with someone who didn’t know me or anyone in my life because it felt safer. When that wasn’t available, venting to a close friend and asking for comfort or advice made a significant difference in how I handled depressive episodes. Writing things down also provided a different perspective on my situation, allowing me to reflect on how I was handling things and what I could do to improve my situation. When I was upset and having an episode, I would resort to cutting to feel something rather than numbness or sadness. To prevent that, I started using a rubber band, flicking it on my wrist a few times to remind myself that harming myself wouldn’t make my situation better. Over time, I’ve come to realize that depression never truly goes away; you can only learn how to manage it in a way that feels comfortable and safe for you. Meditating and practicing affirmations have also given me a better view of myself. I have a motivational quote app on my phone that genuinely helps me think about my daily choices and the thoughts I have when I'm upset, encouraging me to shift my mindset to be more positive. All I want is for people to know it’s okay to not be okay and to always reach out for help because, one way or another, you will receive it just by opening up and asking for it. Everyone goes through their challenges, and no battle is too small or too large. The journey through mental health is often non-linear and fraught with challenges, but it can also lead to profound personal growth and understanding. Through therapy, supportive relationships, and self-reflection, Arielys Torres has learned valuable lessons about managing her mental health and recognizing her worth. Her experiences underscore the importance of reaching out for help and the power of connection in overcoming adversity. Ultimately, she hopes to inspire others to acknowledge their struggles and seek support, reminding us all that it’s okay to not be okay, and that no challenge is too small or too large to face together. Resources National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Phone:  1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) Website:   suicidepreventionlifeline.org Text:  Text “HELLO” to 741741 for the Crisis Text Line. National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline:  1-800-950-NAMI (1-800-950-6264) Website:   nami.org Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline:  1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357) Website:   samhsa.gov Trevor Project (for LGBTQ+ youth) Phone:  1-866-488-7386 Text:  Text “START” to 678678 Website:   thetrevorproject.org International Resources Befrienders Worldwide:  Provides emotional support and crisis resources globally. Visit   befrienders.org . Samaritans:  In the UK and Ireland, call 116 123 or visit   samaritans.org . If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out to these resources for support. You are not alone, and help is available. Reach Arielys Torres' Instagram: Instagram: @ iluv.arimarie

Alyssa, a junior, has always felt torn between her Puerto Rican heritage and the fact that she doesn’t speak Spanish. Growing up in a Hispanic family, she struggled with feeling disconnected from her culture, often wishing she could speak the language to better connect with her family and community. Despite the challenges, Alyssa’s deep love for her roots has pushed her to find other ways to embrace her identity and learn more about her heritage. Her journey is one of navigating the emotional complexities of wanting to belong while feeling like an outsider at times. In this interview, I asked Alyssa about her experiences growing up and feeling that disconnection. We gained insight into how this impact her life, feelings towards personal identity, and learning a language that was familiar, yet so confusing. 1. How did growing up in a Hispanic family without speaking Spanish shape your identity? Growing up as a Puerto Rican without speaking Spanish was challenging. I often felt out of place, and it made me curious about language and culture. It was tough trying to communicate with family members who only spoke Spanish, which made me feel disconnected from my heritage. It pushed me to want to learn Spanish, but at times, it also made me feel like I wasn’t fully Puerto Rican. 2. Did you ever feel disconnected from your culture because of the language barrier? Yes, definitely. The language barrier made me feel like I didn’t really know my own culture, and that was mentally difficult. I sometimes struggled with my identity because I hated feeling disconnected from the Hispanic community. I wished I had been raised speaking Spanish so I could communicate with my family and others, especially in situations where a translator was needed. 3. Were there challenges connecting with others in the Hispanic community due to not speaking Spanish? There were a lot of challenges. I’ve been called "white-washed" and a “No Sabo” because I didn’t speak Spanish. No matter how hard I tried when I was younger, I often felt left out because of the language barrier. It hurt at times, especially when I didn’t understand why my ability to speak Spanish seemed to matter so much to others. 4. How did your family react to you not speaking Spanish? Did they encourage you to learn? My family didn’t really say much about my lack of Spanish, so they didn’t make me feel out of place. But I could tell it bothered them sometimes, especially when we struggled to communicate. We did our best to get by, using gestures and simple phrases, but it was always a bit of a challenge. 5. How do you navigate the connection between language and culture in the Hispanic community without speaking Spanish? I try to connect with my culture in other ways, like listening to more Spanish music and making an effort to learn the language. I’ve also tried to immerse myself in my heritage, visiting Puerto Rico to explore and experience the culture firsthand. I’m constantly working on improving my communication with my family, and it’s been a meaningful way to strengthen my connection to my roots. Alyssa’s story shows that even when we feel disconnected from our roots, there are still ways to find a sense of belonging. Not speaking Spanish didn’t stop her from loving her Puerto Rican heritage, it made her want to learn more and connect in different ways. Her journey reminds us that culture isn’t just about language, but about the love and connection we have with our family and where we come from. No matter the challenges, the desire to stay connected to who we are always stays with us. @ykyourself

Every female's body is uniquely different, but one thing almost all have in common is periods, also known as menstrual cycles. Most girls remember the first time they got their period. For some, it's a memory best kept in the back of their mind, while for others, it marks a moment of empowerment, a sign of growing up and embracing change. This new change opens up doors to a range of possibilities, though it can be frightening. We're taught from a young age that periods typically start around puberty, ranging from the ages 8 and 16, marking the transition from child to young adult. Periods involve monthly bleeding that can last from 3 to 7 days, often accompanied by intense cramps and bed rotting. We learn the basics about how our bodies will change significantly, not just physically but emotionally, and as we mature, we begin to experience these changes firsthand. However, do we really understand what a period is and how it fits into the broader context of our lives? What Causes a Period? First things first, let's address the elephant in the room: Why do we even have periods in the first place? Let's start in the beginning, everything first occurs in your brain, where the hormones (chemical substance that regulates different functions) created in your brain act as signals to your ovaries (the organ that produces eggs and hormones). The hormones created from your ovaries send signals to the lining of your uterus to grow thicker. Why does the lining grow thicker you may ask? The lining of your uterus, specifically known as the endometrium, prepares for potential pregnancy including all the rich blood vessels and nutrients it may need. However, if pregnancy does not occur, that thickened lining sheds during menstruation, hence, the blood every month. The menstrual cycle must take place every four weeks because every month, one of your ovaries releases an egg. The mature egg moves into the fallopian tubes, where it is available to be fertilized. This is called ovulation and happens about 14 days before your menstrual period starts. Therefore, while you can get pregnant at any point during your menstrual cycle, your chances of getting pregnant are increased during ovulation. How Can I Take Care of Myself During My Period? There are 3 methods that are most commonly used. It's best to start off by doing your own research about each method and experiment with which one is the most comfortable for you. Pads are typically made from cotton and feature adhesive strips that stick to the inside of your underwear. They are available in various sizes and shapes to suit different body types and levels of menstrual flow. Many girls prefer pads when they first start menstruating. Tampons, on the other hand, offer convenience for activities like sports or swimming. They are cotton plugs inserted into the vagina using an applicator to absorb menstrual blood. Menstrual cups are made of silicone and are inserted into the vagina to collect menstrual blood. They can be worn for longer periods and emptied as needed. Additionally, our menstrual cycles come with a range of emotional and physical symptoms. What are these symptoms and how can you overcome these stresses in the best way possible? Acne - Your skin is more prone to acne breakouts due to things such as your estrogen and progesterone levels dropping just before you get your period. This results in your oil glands producing more than necessary and creating clogged pores. Cramps - While some women rarely get cramps, others often have a painful feeling in their lower abdomen or pelvis. Cramps during your menstrual cycle are caused by uterine contractions. Mood swings - Serotonin levels in your brain change as your menstrual period nears. When there's an insufficient amount of this brain chemical, it can contribute to factors such as premenstrual depression, fatigue, or sleep problems. It's very important to remember these symptoms aren't the end of the world (I definitely think this every time I'm on my cycle). You can take over-the-counter pain relief medicine to ease any cramps or headaches. Healthy diets play a big factor in alleviating symptoms. You can even go for a run or take a warm bath to improve circulation and provide a distraction. The most important, and I can't stress this enough, is to stay hydrated! You should be consuming about 11.5-15.5 cups (2.7-3.7 liters) of fluid everyday. Normalizing Periods and Education As you mature into adulthood, your period is a natural part of this process. It should never be something to feel ashamed about or feel uncomfortable bringing up. Creating a safe space for conversations about periods is crucial for younger girls who are still learning about their bodies, as it encourages them to seek help and decreases the risk of jeopardizing their health. Understanding your body and its remarkable capabilities boosts confidence and promotes overall health. Monitoring your period can also help identify potential health risks. For instance, irregularities or extremely heavy bleeding may signal underlying conditions that require medical attention. If you have concerns about your health and menstrual cycle, consulting your general physician or gynecologist for guidance is recommended. Feel free to leave any questions and comments you may have!

Acne, pimples, breakouts, trust me, I've been through it all. From the ripe age of 12, acne has never been a stranger to me. Up until this moment, the summer before my junior year, is when I've truly learned how to be comfortable in my own body and be okay with what reflects back at me in the mirror. What you will read next is something quite personal, an imitation story I wrote for my Honors English class as a sophomore, based on the book Eres Un Pocho. It will highlight the struggles I went through as a young, inexperienced girl, just hoping to be a normal. "Just Wash Your Face" "Just wash your face." You are eleven. The gentle breeze whispers of summer’s approach and the end of 5th grade. As you step into middle school, the thrill of saying "6th grade" will mark your growth and maturity. You feel the glistening sunshine on your skin. The warmth of the rays as they touch your back and arms, while you run under the monkey bars during recess. Your hair is tied back into a ponytail and your white headband catch the sweat. Wiping it away brings a fleeting sense of childhood relief. The feeling of no worries.  The feeling of no anxiety. You face the sun with confidence, your skin and that of the other kids glowing. Everyone’s concerns are lost in the thrill of tag, with no one worrying about anything but who’s “It.” When the bell rings, you head back inside, sweat-soaked and red-faced, clothes drenched from the day’s play. You turn on the tap water, specifically on the coldest setting. Using your hands you cusp a good amount of cold water in your hands and splash it onto your face. You dry off your face with paper towels and happily make your way back to your air-conditioned class. Your smooth, clear skin returns back to its normal color. You look forward to tomorrow, eager to relive the carefree joy of being a kid. "Just wash your face." You are twelve.  As time progresses, you begin to notice small red bumps appearing here and there on your forehead. It’s awkward at first, but you don’t mind it as much since some of your friends are going through the same situation as you are. However, what once was smooth and clear of any redness is gone. After school, you attend aftercare, the program for students unable to be picked up at 3:15. Here, you spend most of your time daily, from 3:15 PM to 7 PM. You spend your time in the gym, where you and your friends play basketball with each other to make time go by. When the ball bounces off the rim and rolls away, whoever is nearby picks it up and passes it back. Ben, standing side by side with the ball that rolled over his ankles, stood still. He ignores it, leaving you to retrieve it. After you retrieve the ball, you notice him whispering to his friends. Though he may have thought you didn’t hear, his words pierce your heart. “ Why does she have so many pimples on her forehead?” Something that you thought was normal to have, something you told yourself everyone goes through at least once in their life, suddenly disappeared in that moment. You question if this entire time, was everyone’s eyes really on those red bumps? You question if your red bumps were different than everyone else's. You wonder why your bumps keep coming back while others fade so easily. You start to question if there is something wrong with you. At home, you turn to your mom for advice. She tells you to wash your face, reassuring you that the pimples will clear up and urging you not to worry. So you do. Except this time, you wash your face with soap and water. Maybe your skin is just oily and dirty from sweat. Your classmate’s words still lingering in your mind. "Just wash your face." You are 13. You come home from your first visit at the dermatologist. Your mom insisted you get help from someone who is more educated, as the many facial washes and different store-bought medicines haven’t been of any help. It’s almost like the stress and insecurities you have accumulated have now rubbed off on her as well.  Your acne has spread to the cheeks of your face and the pimples on your forehead only seem to grow. You start feeling everyone's eyes on you. You soon find solace in makeup.  First, you buy one concealer. You tell yourself that one product wouldn’t hurt, that you’ll wash your face everyday, twice a day, to make up for the chemicals you are putting onto your face. With every coat of concealer you use to cover your acne, you find a new sense of confidence you haven’t felt in a while. This confidence stems from the ability to hide yourself from all the prying eyes, underneath the makeup. However, you start to rely on more makeup to feel pretty. With each new product—mascara, blush, highlighter—you reassure yourself that just one more won’t hurt. Soon, you'll feel dependent on makeup everything you step out the house. Your mom tells you to stop applying makeup everyday, as it only makes it worse. But you don’t listen to her, you’re too attached to the only thing that makes you feel pretty. Deep down, you know makeup is only making things worse, no matter how much you try to deny and justify it.  It’s not just your acne that you are ashamed of now. You start picking out details of your face that you feel as though they just don't belong. You question why your eyelashes aren’t longer, why your nose lacks a bridge, or why your face is so round. You’ll come home everyday and listen to your mom constantly reminding you to wash your face to get all the makeup off. Everyone tells you to just wash your face, as if you haven’t tried that and everything else. Your mom repeatedly asks if you’ve used your medication morning and night, her reminders blurring the line between care and pity. Sometimes, you feel as though she just doesn’t understand. You’ll find it so unbelievably unfair that you are going through all of this pain, while most girls your age are stressing about one pimple they got overnight. You find yourself questioning what you did to deserve this. "Just wash your face." You are 14. You’ll start your freshman year of high school. A school like a mosaic, rich with diverse backgrounds and stories. A tough reality where many have faced struggles as deep as or deeper than your own . You'll learn that almost everyone has something to be insecure about. If this reality wasn’t new to you before, it sure was now. You’ll notice people with scars on their arms, wearing dozens of bracelets to cover them up. They, too, feel everyone’s eyes on them.   You’ll notice other kids coming to school in baggy clothes every single day, even though the classrooms feel as though the sun is in the room with us. They’ll keep their head down and will barely say 2 words.  You’ll hear the loud, confident students yelling down the hallway or their quick, snark remarks when they hear something they don't like. You’ll assume they don’t have any insecurities. They seem to be perfectly fine, how could they be self-conscious? But you'll soon notice their flaws. They’re just as self conscious as everyone else. They’ll always worry about their appearance or how others perceive them. They just hide it better.  You’ll think back to 5th grade, when everything seemed so much easier. Maybe people were always talking about you, maybe they always had something to say, but this never affected you. You never had to think twice before raising your hand because you think it’ll be dumb. You never had to step outside of the classroom to just blow your nose.  Growing up changes people. It changes how you look physically, and how you think mentally. With spring's arrival, you'll face daily outdoor physical education. As the sun blazes down, you’ll avoid looking at it, fearing it will expose every imperfection you’ve tried to hide. You’ll shun all bright lighting, clinging to shadows that mask your scars. This is something you’ve learned to just accept. "Just wash your face." You are 15 years old. It is August 2023, a month before sophomore year begins, you’ve tried countless medications without success. After quitting makeup in June, you’re hoping your acne will clear up before school resumes in the fall. You’ve just been prescribed Accutane by your dermatologist. A new journey.  A journey with much hope.  Lingered by fear. Will this new medication only worsen your acne? Will it simply join the list of six other products that never worked out for you? You learn you must get a blood test every month, as well as a pregnancy test because it’s crucial to know that these drugs aren’t harming your body. Your parents worry, anxious of how this drug will affect my body. Your brother, now 13, is starting to develop acne. Your mother not only reminds you to wash your face every night but also advises him. She compares his skin to yours, warning him not to forget his routine. “Just like your sister’s.” These words will cut deep, though she isn’t aware of it. You just remind yourself that all she has is love for you.  However, you are tired of the constant reminder that your face will never be clear again. This is something that you’ll slowly learn to embrace over time.  You’ll learn to love your inner beauty, qualities, and accomplishments, rather than dwell on your outer appearance. You’ll learn that your flaws and insecurities don’t define you as a person, but only make you stronger. You’ll know that you are not alone in this journey and that there are others out there who are going through the same thing as you. You’ll understand your acne won’t go away within one night, but that it’ll take time and there is no rush. You'll stop getting mad at yourself for something you have no control over. You’ll turn on the tap water, specifically on the coldest setting. Using your hands you cusp a good amount of cold water and splash it onto your face. Gazing in the mirror, you remind yourself everyday that you are okay. I am 16 now. It's been a year since my first prescription of Accutane and a month after my last dose. My skin is clear of acne, yet there are still imperfections in my face. My deep scars and blemishes serve as a reminder of how far I've come. I view my scars as symbols of resilience and progress, rather than flaws to be criticized. This experience has shown me that genuine beauty originates from within, nurtured by resilience, self-love, and the acknowledgment of one's imperfections. My scars are not sources of shame but rather symbols of honor, demonstrating the inner strength that guided me through my adolescence years with appreciation and certainty.